Can't tell you how many times I've heard this. Now, I'll admit the people are probably joking but there's always a grain of honesty in a joke. Yet, that comment still makes me think....
(but then again, maybe I'm not normal)
But why do people think we're sooooo different from themselves just because homeschooling carries the connotation that we don't see the outside world or know how to interact with it? I'll let you in on a little secret...... people are people are people. This means that every person carries their own baggage of insecurities, different moral standards, and different cultural norms. Being educated at home comes along with its own baggage. Now, I was homeschooled K through 12--at home with my mom and my siblings but yes, I did see the outside world and I and other homeschoolers are "socialized" this is how:
- We interact with people. It's not like we live in another universe. We have neighbors, church friends, and other homeschoolers (we have a secret society complete with secret handshake).
- Because we aren't surrounded by our peers everyday, we learn how to interact with people of all ages. I noticed this phenomenon in my homeschool group and recognized it in myself that we are drawn to adults as well as children--not just our peers.
- While many homeschoolers have earned the stereotype of being nerds, that term carries many undeserved connotations. Removed from the peer pressures to do what is cool, homeschoolers are able to cultivate their own passions (from Lord of the Rings, Debate, Music and the like). Anyone that is more focused on a particular idea will come across as odd to other and quite often will awaken jealousy that manifests itself in meanness.
Is that really important when that ineptness stems from insecurities that everyone has or from a specialized skill set?
I'll let you answer that question for yourself.
I, for one, am puzzling out whether my experiences in my childhood and teenage years set me at a disadvantage to my peers. Because quite often the jokes/comments imply that.
Please leave me a comment with your thoughts!
Whatever your educational background is, I hope you enjoyed reading this homeschooler's thoughts.
Live long and prosper,